Flexibility

Looking back at my dating experiences, the third date seems quite important. The first date is mostly for first impressions– attraction, chemistry, and whether there's enough common ground to warrant another meeting. The second date acts as confirmation; we find out if that initial spark was genuine or just fleeting. But what about the third date? Things seem to become more intentional at this point. It feels like both individuals are expressing a desire to potentially develop a deeper connection.

I will admit that I used to feel significant pressure around third dates. Questions would run through my mind: Should this be the point where we define the relationship? Does it need to get more physical? Or have a serious talk? I recall going on a third date once and overanalyzing every single aspect. I realized my focus on “meaning” prevented actual relaxation and enjoyment. Nevertheless, I learned over time that the third date need not be burdened with heavy expectations. Rather it can present an exciting opportunity— striking a balance between fun and forming a deeper connection! In what follows, I shall share some insights into handling those third-date expectations more easily and confidently; so there is less stress– and more genuine connecting!