Emotional Triggers

In all relationships I was ever involved in, there were some point of time in conversations where we went off on a tangent, unexpectedly having a very intense chat. A slight thing such as an uttered comment, a certain tone of voice, or misinterpretation of meaning would evoke a strong emotional response. Initially I considered those reactions to be merely arguments or one side being in a bad mood. Nevertheless, with time, I started realizing that most of these events were linked with something profound. These were really emotional triggers, sensitive areas tied to some of our past experiences, fears, and insecurities that could emerge very quickly in a relationship. Upon getting hold of this idea, it helped me to view fights from an entirely new angle.

Identifying emotional triggers does not necessarily imply one is to blame on any side. It is rather concerned with comprehension of how individual experiences affect emotional responses. I got to know that every single individual has emotional patterns developed as a result of family environment and past relationships and different obstacles in their lives. When these patterns collided in a relationship then even tiny issues may turn into far more serious matter than they are supposed to be. Learning how to identify and deal with these triggers aided me in cultivating more sensitivity and self-control in my interactions with people. Instead of reacting quickly, I started out digging down on what might be going beneath the surface which often opened up the way to deeper insight and better manner of communication.