Finding the Balance Between Passion and Comfort
From what I have experienced with being in relationships, there are some interesting experiences about how the emotional environment changes with time. To start with, almost every single thing is very electric at the beginning. Long conversations take up several hours, messages become very interesting, and even small interactions carry meaning. That initial stage filled with intense passion makes a relationship seem full of life and so much fun. There were moments when just being next to my partner I felt was the most thrilling place on earth. The high level of emotional involvement is powerful and such feelings are always remembered during falling in love.
However, with development of a relationship, growth happens, then something else develops together with that passion. It is known as comfort. As opposed to that continuous excitement, the relationship will start to feel safe and normal. Initially, I would wonder if that shift implied something was losing its steam. However after some time, I was able to realize comfort does not become the opponent of passion— rather it is component to a lasting relationship. The main task is not opting for either passion or comfort but is rather understanding how to keep a balance. Where both of these are present in relationships they are very exciting as well as emotionally strong and enable formation of deep attachment that will endure even beyond a few weeks of romantic mood.
