Mental

Getting help for your partner's mental health is one of the really important—and sometimes tough— jobs we can do when we're in a relationship. I used to think just loving someone was enough. I thought if I showed I cared, offered a hand, and tried to stay positive, my partner would get a little better during tough times. But after a while, I got it– mental health doesn't work out quite right. It's not something you can fix with getting reassured or being hopeful, even trying hard. Mental health stuff is kind of tricky, really personal, and often gets hidden from outsiders. When my partner started working on their own mental health thing, I realized I didn't really get what actually supporting them looks like.

Realizing that things changed is realizing support isn't just about saving someone up– it's about actually getting along with them. It's about being patient, humble and okay with getting uncomfortable without trying to control it all. Getting my partner's mental health brought up my own expectations, fears and limits. I kind of got that love isn't proven by fixing fights, but by sticking around and dealing with it. Getting into this job totally changed how I think about partnership, being empathetic, and emotionally tough in our relationship.