Perspective

These days dating seems more complicated than before. As I got more familiar with contemporary dating, it was clear that the initial phase of getting to know someone was interesting, but a bit puzzling. Spending time together, holding conversations, building connection but then comes an unsaid question deep within one's mind of where it could all be headed. Eventually that uncertainty matures into curiosity, and curiosity may finally develop into the demand for understanding. And this is where the chat around exclusivity starts. I once thought that exclusivity just happened naturally and wouldn't need a word. However after a while I realized that our assumptions are very likely to be wrong when both people do not have the same view.

Talking about exclusivity may present itself as intimidating because it brings out vulnerability. It entails being honest regarding what we desire, how we feel, and the direction which we wish the relation might take. In the beginning of my dating experiences I had a tendency to evade such talks because I had fears that talking about it would create tension or frighten off the individual involved. As a result of gaining some level of experience I came to realize that having clarity really signifies high degree of emotional maturity. Open conversation concerning exclusivity facilitates the mutual comprehension among the two individuals regarding their specific expectations and plans. The moment you communicate about these matters such way leaves room for growth of natural trust and regard.